Being a grown-up is not an easy task but maybe behaving like one is. We never realized when our priorities changed and when those silly friends became the part of the family and when the family time just lost somewhere.
Not demanding things from your parents unnecessarily makes you a grown-up? Earning for your family makes you a grown-up? Or is it more to it?
Gone were the times, when everybody used to sit together during meals at least. Now, nobody has the time and if they do, the different working schedules do not allow them to spend time with each other. It’s not like people try hard to get back the lost time. Instead, they have molded themselves in such a way that they don’t care enough.
We Changed, Not Them:-
It was us who started behaving like one. Nobody forced us to. It was us who have a thinking that we are too grown-up to sit and talk about anything and everything with our parents. To share what is happening in our life. To tell them what we need. It’s not entirely them who isolated us. We are the ones who preferred finding solace in our friends rather than believing in our parents, as our true well-wishers. Taking help from friends is not wrong but certain matters are required to be put forward in front of parents as well.
Gone were the times when we used to demand every little thing from our parents. Now realizing the hard-work they put up to save every single penny of their earnings just for the sake of their children is something that we should appreciate every single moment. And we do that too. So much that we prefer hiding things from them rather being open about it. What is the use of hiding things from them, when ultimately; we do take the help from the friends? Sadly, nobody has ever thought about it but this is true.
Still Not Happy:-
But in spite of all this, people crib about being a grown-up. They wish to be a child again where there are no alarms, no work and no more being a money-making machine etc.
My question is why such double standards?
When we want something and aren’t allowed to do so, you say that you are a grown-up now. You should be allowed. On the other hand, you feel burdened with responsibilities at a young age.
An individual earns for his/her family as well as himself/herself. They can’t say that just because they have attained a certain age and are earning, they are grown-ups. They are not. When they can’t understand what it feels like doing things for others. Understanding the silence of their parents. One who doesn’t balance every aspect of their life including their family rather than concentrating on earning money only, they can’t be called grown-ups.
The ultimate weapon our generation use, by saying, we do not share a close relationship with our parents. There is a communication gap between us. The most ultimate, our thinking doesn’t match due to the generation gap.
Agreed, somewhere this may be the case, but do any one of us has ever tried to change their perspective? No! We didn’t. When we didn’t give it a try, we can’t just get away by giving excuses. We need to put efforts if we need them to understand us and vice-versa.
Conclusion– Being a grown-up or behaving like one will not make you one if you can’t understand the sentiments of your parents. You don’t have to grow as in age only. You can be a grown-up any day if you prove yourself to be a responsible one, lovable one, caring one. That’s all they as in your parents are asking for. That’s all you need to do.
Article Credits: Archie Jain | Ghaziabad | India